Mastering the Game of Allyship

Mastering the Game of Allyship Book Update #2
over 2 years ago – Thu, Sep 07, 2023 at 07:31:34 PM

Earlier this month I learned I have to move out of my place in 3 weeks. This little one bedroom house in the riverside neighborhood of Wichita has been home for 3 years. 

3 years of a lot of growth, struggle, heartache, and adventures. 

Back in 2017 I had to goal of wanting to evelop a safe place for myself, within myself but also in my physical space. 

During West Coast Winter(tm) I found myself with out safe spaces to lose myself. even as I travelled through some of the most beautiful locations in the world, I didn't feel as though I had a place to truly go wild, except for at home. 

I've heard, adn experienced,  that in every large creative undertaking you spend some time going absolutely insane. 

The smaller the project, the less time spend out of your gourd. 

A year-long book project means that I've also spent several months koo-koo for Cocoa Puffs in this house. 

In a more practical sense, as someone who was experiencing less than ideal levels of success in business, I wanted to take advantage of the low cost of living in Wichita to perhaps save up some money while working at a steady job so as to eventually get the chance to focus on the work I'm most passionate about

 Its the surprise little inconveniences and chaotic disruptions that shift intentions away from their mark in life. 

It turns out, doing work you're not in alignment with takes up a lot of emotional energy. 

Even if you're good at something, if you aren't able to bring your full self to it, the road is going to be rocky. And this is a feature not a bug of reality. 

No one likes being betrayed. It isn't a pleasant sensation. And so when we betray ourselves,or appear to do so as a function of how attached to our intuitions we are, our subconscious depending on its level of development is usually out for some kind of revenge against the [self].

I don't necessarily believe in luck, but I do think there are subtle forces at play that allow us to recognize when we're in flow or when we're not. 

And the times I've felt the luckiest is when I've been in flow. 

A sudden move has a way of causing a chain of events that clears through the internal blockages in sympathy with objects in external reality.

 But clearing blockages on your own versus having the universe intervene for you, well let's just say I know which on I prefer. 

Which leads me to talk about the nature of grief and despair. When the chips are down and you've got no more gas in the tank, sadness shows its true colors. 

If you're willing to surrender to the flow that's already present in your life, you don't actually need to energy of anger and fear to get you where you want to go. You can surrender to grief and trust that the path you've put before you leads to where you're meant to be. 

And it always does. 

And so here I am following the path of least resistance to get to ya'll with another book update.

Much Love- 

A Long Awaited Update!
over 2 years ago – Tue, Aug 22, 2023 at 08:49:51 AM

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Allyship Dojo- Wake-Up with Big Mind + Pre-Order CONTEST
almost 4 years ago – Mon, Jun 06, 2022 at 02:31:07 PM

Hey all. This week's Allyship Dojo will be a Wake-UP week. you can RSVP for teh facebook event here! 

https://www.facebook.com/events/5358370804194725

While working on the Mastering the Game of Allyship Book, I was thinking about how best to make the process of promoting the book FUN, not only for me but for my supporters. Currently the most effective way for people show up as an Ally for me and my work is to get as many pre-orders for the book as possible. 

I also want to create as many opportunities for people to practice the skills of the book as I'm writing it.  I want this to feel like something that's participatory. 

The biggest barrier I've personally run into as a promoter of my own work is that I'm worried I'm not good enough, and I'm afraid that the way I show up doesn't connect with a wider audience. The Kickstarter was proof that this was something not to be afraid of but it also taught me how much energy can go into getting the word out. 

I couldn't have made it to where I am without your help and I don't plan on starting a habit of "doing things myself" again anytime soon. 

Many people are afraid to show up as effective allies because they don't think they have the emotional resources to show up in the way they believe they are supposed to. But consistent results comes from taking small steps every day in alignment with the feelings you want to get from being an effective ally. 

When I ask people why they want to be an effective ally most of the time it's so they can feel a sense of relief at being a "good person". Unfortunately relief is an emotion that isn't sustainable. To consistently get relief you have to always be in a state of tension. That constant tension and pressure actually ends up making people move AWAY from effective allyship because many people haven't done the emotional conditioning to hold that kind of tension for a long time. They choose to distract themselves or take ineffective actions that don't get real results. 

I CAN say that promoting this kickstarter directly impacts my ability to help people, to change the world, to rewrite the cultural scripts on what it means to show up as a caring person in a complex world. 

So let's make these next few months fun! Comment on this post or email me at [email protected] with any questions about how to increase your effectiveness as an ally TODAY. Let me know what's getting in the way of wanting to show up to promote the work. Let me know if there are ways that you'd like to see me to show up in a fun an engaging way!

Pre-order Store now open! Share with the Homies!
almost 4 years ago – Fri, Jun 03, 2022 at 11:09:51 AM

Hey all! finally got the Backerkit stuff wrangled just in tome for my trust Macbook Air of 5 years to crap out on me😅😅😅

What this means for you is that you can share the project with people who didnt get a chace to back it in March!

My goal is to increase the number and quality of effective allies in the world and even thiugh youve already made the first step of backing the project i still need your help!

Your mission should you choose to accept it is to share this pre-order page with 10 homies. theres a tip jar option as well so even if they dont wnat to buy the book (which i cant imagine why they wouldnt want it its gonna be so fire🔥🔥🔥)

https://mastering-the-game-of-allyship.backerkit.com/hosted_preorders

I’m gonna do another social media blitz to get as many people involved as possible. to that end im ipening up 30 minute cosching sessions to help anyone whos feeling squicky about putting their hypeman/promoter hat on. 

This is a struggle for a NUMBER of allies and is definstely something im gonna be coaching people through in the book.

Allyship Dojo: Growing up your Allyship Practice!
almost 4 years ago – Tue, May 24, 2022 at 12:55:46 PM

This week is a grow up week in the Allyship Dojo!

We'll be focusing on how to recognize your own level of effective allyship

How to be an effective ally at every developmental level

How your allyship superpower shows up at the various levels

And how to attune to the developmental level of the people you want to be an effective ally towards!

See you there!

https://fb.me/e/2rodRJXep

Also I just checked my wordcounts and I have hit 33k words on the book. Which means I'm a little more than halfway done. Also The Allyship Cookie pins have shipped!